So you've just started university. Freshers is over and you're now settling into lectures, meeting endless new people, and getting used to the new transition in your life. Uni can be hard on people. It's a lot to adapt to and a lot to get used to. There's the pressures around drinking and going out, the new stresses of handling finances and trying to find your place in a sea of new friends.
All of this on top of having a chronic illness to handle can probably feel like too much. Uni might be, for a lot of students, a time of going out, burning the candle at both ends, but also a time of little structure, meaning sleep patterns are all over the place and a routine is almost non-existent.
There are ways of working around this to help you feel more able to have a regular experience as a student, but to also care for yourself properly at the same time. Being a student can be an amazing, exhilarating time and getting the most out of it can be very positive for those of us with chronic health problems.
First of all, even though this sounds like something you're likely to stick to for three days before getting bored- make yourself a sleep schedule. I'm not talking for the night, because I've been to uni and I know nights out and staying up til morning are just part of the package. I mean naps, mornings where you can sleep longer, evenings where you can get a couple of hours before you begin socialising. Just sit down with your timetable and see what you can get out of it. Making the time for naps mean you won't feel like you're just falling asleep when you shouldn't be, or leave you feeling guilty about not getting on with other things. If it's officially nap time, it's nap time!
Tell your friends. Don't try and weather the storm by saying nothing and having people ask you sideways questions about you pulling out of events, needing to stay home and rest or just needing a bit of help with everyday tasks. Bring it up, explain it as much or as little as you want, but at least if you let them know, they are aware there is a problem. Good friends won't judge you on your ability, so there's also a scope for making sure you are settling into the right crowd.
Alert the uni. You may not have a condition that requires adaptations to living space or assistance with classes and getting about, but you never know what they might have to offer you. These aren't just places you go to for taking exams, learning to cook more than pasta and hopefully getting a degree at the end. Universities try and create a life for you, and it's worth looking into their occupational health services and speaking to someone about support. You can often have access to counsellors, which for a lot of people struggling to adapt to this new world you've landed in, could be just what you need.
This might sound a bit out there and like something you wouldn't even want to consider, but is there a society at your campus for people with chronic health conditions? They exist. I've researched it and places have them, if they aren't long standing. If you are the sort of person who might be inclined to set something up, please do. You could be the helping hand a lot of others who are struggling need to start enjoying their life. Meeting like-minded people who can relate to your health, chronic pain and spoonie struggles could make all the difference to your student experience.
I've had a few requests about writing student posts, and hopefully more will follow that will prove helpful, but feel free to request anything in the comments! Good luck students. I envy you, uni really can be the best time of your life.
