Invisible illness: Support is so important

Having hypermobility can mean very different things for different people. While many people who have hypermobility have no symptoms at all, those who have hypermobility syndrome can lead a debilitated and painful life.

This is one end of the spectrum: 22 year old Alex tells of how hypermobility is currently ruling her life:

-Migraines, brain fog, inability to concentrate, loss of time/zoning out for minutes/hours.
-I struggle to complete tasks, work or periods of study. I would not be able to maintain a job or complete full time education. This is because of mental fatigue or 'brain fog'. I lack the concentration to complete even the simplest of tasks and I have a hard time with my short term memory. I can never remember whether I took my medicine, or if I ate at lunch time so managing my own condition can be difficult at times.

Alex doesn't look unwell, which often contributes to the battle

-Having a family member assist in helping me out with everyday tasks, finances, taking medication, managing therapies and appointments, reading emails and post is really helpful as there are times I'm not able to do this for myself. I struggle with verbal communication, I find it hard to maintain or keep up with conversation or explain my point and sometimes  understanding what others are saying. I need someone present with me at appointments or if I go out to help me with communication and traveling.

Sadly Alex is most definitely not alone in feeling this way everyday thanks to her condition. Having your ability to work, socialise, take care of yourself and be dependent in a way most people wouldn't give a second thought to taken away can be truly horrible.

HMS can strike in a very different way though, as it doesn't always cause a sufferer to not be able to work or carry out normal tasks. My end of things are quite different.

I am 24, have a full time job, socialise regularly and travel often. I still suffer with similar problems to Alex, but in a different way. Brain fog is definitely an issue. Sometimes at work my head clouds over and I forget what I am doing, or even who I am talking to. My short term memory can be awful at times.

Sitting at desk is like having a daily mortal enemy. I have to constantly stand and then sit and shift and move around because my back and shoulders despise it. I get extremely tired if I have a night out, which is worsening as I get older (as are hangovers) and really noticeable. Sleeping can be quite uncomfortable and I often wake up in a pretzel like shape with my shoulders out of place, so mornings aren't amazing. My muscles sometimes pull to the point where I have to limp even from the slightest exercise, whereas other times I can run, do fitness classes and swim as much as I like. Despite these things I can still go about day-to-day life largely untroubled.

You learn to adapt when you have a chronic condition. You just get used to the symptoms and learn how to manage them better. It’s when you have symptoms to the extreme, like Alex, that things become different. When your life is basically taken away and replaced with a full time fight, you need the right support system to pull through and stabilise yourself.

The problem with having a condition like HMS or related condition EDS (type 3 is the hypermobility type), is that not enough medical professionals understand too few people are aware that they even exist. Even those who do know and are close to a sufferer can try their hardest to support them, but it’s not always enough. People need education, training  and a better awareness. There are of course amazing carers everywhere, but an invisible illness comes with an extra difficulty: How can you help something that doesn't seem to be there?

Alex wants to get her life back on track, but she is constantly being blocked or delayed. These things will probably be frustratingly similar to fellow chronic illness fighters:

- Many support aids are needed for not just my body but for around my house and are quite expensive. The estimated cost of the aids that I need have passed the £1000 mark.
- I don't have an income other than the pre-assessment ESA rate, I should have had an assessment in May to determine whether I need more support but sadly they are experiencing around 26 week delays
- I have also applied for PIP to help cover the cost of living and to buy supports and appliances to adjust my home to my condition, the estimated wait time to hear back about a claim is around 26-48 weeks
- I have to consider the costs of prescriptions when back in work
Not having the supports that I require are preventing me from having independence, I am causing myself further pain and potentially damage.
*More readily available knowledge about getting help with costs for supports or aids would really benefit me. When I purchase these aids and supports I will have more independence, I will be better able to manage my condition and I will be able to get back into part time work at the very least.

Seeing medical professionals with little to no knowledge of the illness
- Unhelpful with a course of treatment or pain relief due to lack of knowledge.
- When seeing doctors about non HMS related problems they are sometimes reluctant to treat as they’re unsure what could be a symptom.
- Having to explain the condition to a medical professional when seeking treatment.
- Having spent so much time at the doctors or in hospitals since childhood with a multitude of complaints, at times I feel like I'm not being taken seriously and appear to be a hypochondriac.

This causes me anxiety, stress, and over a long period of time has contributed largely to depression. The smallest of stresses can exacerbate my symptoms and make me more susceptible to flare ups.

 We need more awareness of the condition, to have the necessary NHS staff educated on the condition, how to identify it and how to implement a treatment plan.

Alex’s frustration is widespread in the community of rare and invisible illness. I see it every day on social media, where support systems have grown as people come together to share experiences and help each other with diagnosis. Sometimes I read things that alarm me on Facebook groups (simply search for hypermobility and you will find many) and on Twitter, of course self-diagnosis isn’t the best way to go, but the majority of messages and advice is brilliant and you won’t find it in many places.

The associated charities are so motivated and really good at raising awareness and providing educational resources.

The Hypermobility Syndrome Association: http://hypermobility.org/

Ehlers-Danlos Support UK  http://www.ehlers-danlos.org/ 

There are also books available, such as A Guide to Living with Hypermobility Syndrome by Isobel Knight, available on Amazon.

You should also not give up after one failed trip to a GP, or even specialist. I had to see my GP about six times until I got a correct referral to a team that might be of real help to me.

The support for HMS and EDS is nowhere near perfect, and in many cases not even helpful at the moment. It is so important that awareness and fundraising continues so people like Alex can get somewhere, and do simple things like go out for the day for friends, or look for a part-time job. Hopefully the future will be brighter and better and importantly, more visible.