Invisible illness: Support is so important

Having hypermobility can mean very different things for different people. While many people who have hypermobility have no symptoms at all, those who have hypermobility syndrome can lead a debilitated and painful life.

This is one end of the spectrum: 22 year old Alex tells of how hypermobility is currently ruling her life:

-Migraines, brain fog, inability to concentrate, loss of time/zoning out for minutes/hours.
-I struggle to complete tasks, work or periods of study. I would not be able to maintain a job or complete full time education. This is because of mental fatigue or 'brain fog'. I lack the concentration to complete even the simplest of tasks and I have a hard time with my short term memory. I can never remember whether I took my medicine, or if I ate at lunch time so managing my own condition can be difficult at times.

Alex doesn't look unwell, which often contributes to the battle

-Having a family member assist in helping me out with everyday tasks, finances, taking medication, managing therapies and appointments, reading emails and post is really helpful as there are times I'm not able to do this for myself. I struggle with verbal communication, I find it hard to maintain or keep up with conversation or explain my point and sometimes  understanding what others are saying. I need someone present with me at appointments or if I go out to help me with communication and traveling.

Sadly Alex is most definitely not alone in feeling this way everyday thanks to her condition. Having your ability to work, socialise, take care of yourself and be dependent in a way most people wouldn't give a second thought to taken away can be truly horrible.

HMS can strike in a very different way though, as it doesn't always cause a sufferer to not be able to work or carry out normal tasks. My end of things are quite different.

I am 24, have a full time job, socialise regularly and travel often. I still suffer with similar problems to Alex, but in a different way. Brain fog is definitely an issue. Sometimes at work my head clouds over and I forget what I am doing, or even who I am talking to. My short term memory can be awful at times.

Sitting at desk is like having a daily mortal enemy. I have to constantly stand and then sit and shift and move around because my back and shoulders despise it. I get extremely tired if I have a night out, which is worsening as I get older (as are hangovers) and really noticeable. Sleeping can be quite uncomfortable and I often wake up in a pretzel like shape with my shoulders out of place, so mornings aren't amazing. My muscles sometimes pull to the point where I have to limp even from the slightest exercise, whereas other times I can run, do fitness classes and swim as much as I like. Despite these things I can still go about day-to-day life largely untroubled.

You learn to adapt when you have a chronic condition. You just get used to the symptoms and learn how to manage them better. It’s when you have symptoms to the extreme, like Alex, that things become different. When your life is basically taken away and replaced with a full time fight, you need the right support system to pull through and stabilise yourself.

The problem with having a condition like HMS or related condition EDS (type 3 is the hypermobility type), is that not enough medical professionals understand too few people are aware that they even exist. Even those who do know and are close to a sufferer can try their hardest to support them, but it’s not always enough. People need education, training  and a better awareness. There are of course amazing carers everywhere, but an invisible illness comes with an extra difficulty: How can you help something that doesn't seem to be there?

Alex wants to get her life back on track, but she is constantly being blocked or delayed. These things will probably be frustratingly similar to fellow chronic illness fighters:

- Many support aids are needed for not just my body but for around my house and are quite expensive. The estimated cost of the aids that I need have passed the £1000 mark.
- I don't have an income other than the pre-assessment ESA rate, I should have had an assessment in May to determine whether I need more support but sadly they are experiencing around 26 week delays
- I have also applied for PIP to help cover the cost of living and to buy supports and appliances to adjust my home to my condition, the estimated wait time to hear back about a claim is around 26-48 weeks
- I have to consider the costs of prescriptions when back in work
Not having the supports that I require are preventing me from having independence, I am causing myself further pain and potentially damage.
*More readily available knowledge about getting help with costs for supports or aids would really benefit me. When I purchase these aids and supports I will have more independence, I will be better able to manage my condition and I will be able to get back into part time work at the very least.

Seeing medical professionals with little to no knowledge of the illness
- Unhelpful with a course of treatment or pain relief due to lack of knowledge.
- When seeing doctors about non HMS related problems they are sometimes reluctant to treat as they’re unsure what could be a symptom.
- Having to explain the condition to a medical professional when seeking treatment.
- Having spent so much time at the doctors or in hospitals since childhood with a multitude of complaints, at times I feel like I'm not being taken seriously and appear to be a hypochondriac.

This causes me anxiety, stress, and over a long period of time has contributed largely to depression. The smallest of stresses can exacerbate my symptoms and make me more susceptible to flare ups.

 We need more awareness of the condition, to have the necessary NHS staff educated on the condition, how to identify it and how to implement a treatment plan.

Alex’s frustration is widespread in the community of rare and invisible illness. I see it every day on social media, where support systems have grown as people come together to share experiences and help each other with diagnosis. Sometimes I read things that alarm me on Facebook groups (simply search for hypermobility and you will find many) and on Twitter, of course self-diagnosis isn’t the best way to go, but the majority of messages and advice is brilliant and you won’t find it in many places.

The associated charities are so motivated and really good at raising awareness and providing educational resources.

The Hypermobility Syndrome Association: http://hypermobility.org/

Ehlers-Danlos Support UK  http://www.ehlers-danlos.org/ 

There are also books available, such as A Guide to Living with Hypermobility Syndrome by Isobel Knight, available on Amazon.

You should also not give up after one failed trip to a GP, or even specialist. I had to see my GP about six times until I got a correct referral to a team that might be of real help to me.

The support for HMS and EDS is nowhere near perfect, and in many cases not even helpful at the moment. It is so important that awareness and fundraising continues so people like Alex can get somewhere, and do simple things like go out for the day for friends, or look for a part-time job. Hopefully the future will be brighter and better and importantly, more visible. 

Collagen- more important than you think

Before I found out I had hypermobility syndrome and began a never ending biology lesson, I thought collagen was just a cosmetic thing. I knew about ‘collagen fillers’ that you get injected into your face to make lips plumper and wrinkles less prominent. I didn’t have any idea just how important it was in your body or how much my lack of it would impact my life.

When I was newly diagnosed and became aware of the syndrome I started seeing the word collagen everywhere. Probably because I was paying more attention to the word, but also because actually, it’s a big part of being a human. I remember buying a lipstick about three years ago that said it was like ‘magical cherry colored collagen’ and made your lips look like you may be distantly related to Kim Kardashian. This then made me think that my joints must be all shriveled and fragile looking and definitely not anything like Kim K.

Collagen is actually the most abundant protein in humans and makes up 30% of the protein content of the body. It can be found everywhere, even in your eyes. It is in your gut, bones, blood vessels, skin, ligaments and tendons; quite the popular protein. It’s very important for strengthening those parts of the body and extremely important to skin. Skin gets its elasticity from collagen and when production starts to slow with age, we start to get wrinkles. I guess this the stage where you start buying ‘magical collagen’ products and letting a man in a lab coat inject some into your face and tell you look fabulous.

I’ve often read that collagen is the super glue of the body, which makes sense to hypermobility sufferers, as they often feel like their joints are falling apart because they are lacking in it. The lack of collagen means a distinct lack of strength in joints, meaning the muscles work harder to keep us going.

Millions of people buy into ways of making collagen produce more rapidly when they get older, meaning they can retain a more youthful look. Let’s face it, it would be ideal if we could just inject some extra collagen into joints or buy a nice collagen rich moisturiser and feel all the pains and aches fade away. Since this sadly isn’t an option, it is vital for hypermobility sufferers to strengthen muscles as much as possible. The stronger they are, the easier they will find it to do the extra work. Imagine coming home after a long day and then immediately having to start hours of extra work with no rest or food. This is what it’s like for muscles. Obviously hypermobility stops some people from having the ability to exercise at all, so small, tiny baby steps to start with are just as important, even if it feels like what you are doing is pointless. Trying is half the battle.

My first ever physio, who was brilliant but went on her honeymoon to Hawaii, never returned and is 

probably currently drinking from a coconut, told me that with hypermobility, what you lack in collagen, you must gain in strength. A nice little piece of advice. Someone should make a cushion with the words sewn on or something.

Parsley tea for period troubles

Working alongside doctors and nurses everyday means they are all subjected to me firing questions at them about medical complaints, of which I have plenty. About five months ago, I was busy complaining about how badly I suffer from late periods and pains and oily skin and hair at the joyous time of the month, when a colleague popped up and told me I needed parsley. I have never given much thought to parsley, I mean; it’s not that riveting is it? I knew nothing about it apart from that it came in two forms: flat leaf or curly. Fascinating stuff.

I was very apprehensive when I was told that I should brew myself some parsley tea. I am a tea enthusiast. I love the stuff. Normal tea, green tea, cranberry tea, ginger tea, black tea, tea with milk, tea with honey. All of the tea. The idea of parsley tea however, did not really fill me with caffeine delight. Apparently parsley, which is rich in vitamin C and A, both powerful antioxidants, is actually laden with health benefits. The most surprising thing to hear is that it can help to regulate periods and hurry along late ones. Upon hearing this, I politely nodded and thought to myself ‘errr, yeah okay.’

However, after a really horrible stressful month, my period was very late (about 2 weeks and I was definitely not pregnant), I was bloated, I was grumpy, my skin was horrible and my hair needed washing twice a day to look presentable. I was so fed up that I swung by Sainsbury’s and got some parsley (and about 2000 calories worth of M&Ms). My housemates were mildly horrified to see me throwing some freshly chopped herbs into a cup of boiled water, and to be honest, I was with them. It doesn’t look or smell like much fun. I was instructed to drink two cups for two days. It was pretty easy, just finely chop a handful, pour over the water and wait five minutes. Guess what happened after cup 3?

It worked. Or it was a coincidence, but either way, I was impressed. I also had the most mild and quickly passing stomach cramps for a very long time. I began googling parsley tea and stumbled across loads of forums and posts stating that it really helped with periods and bad skin and a number of other things. There were also a few that said it was rubbish, of course. I decided to try it again the following month, and drank a few cups in between for good measure, and hey presto, barely any period pains and it was bang on time, another extremely novel and sadly exciting thing in my life. After two months of herby, bitty, light green tea, my skin was also looking better. I am as sceptical as the next person about this kind of thing, but I believe in parsley tea. I have used it for four months, and my period pains have subsided, it’s been on time and I don’t look seven months pregnant the week before. I mentioned it in passing to my GP, who said it was definitely good for you, though in true GP fashion when it comes to herbal remedies, she didn’t have much else to say.

I would recommend giving it a try if you have similar woes. However, please brace yourself for the taste. Unless you are parsley groupie, I would add honey or lemon to soften the blow. Drinking it quite hot works too, as the longer you leave it the stronger the taste. It can also apparently help with fatigue and is good for cleansing the kidneys as it is rich in potassium; ideal after a heavy weekend or mid-week happy hour. However I have been told that it isn’t recommended for people with kidney conditions and shouldn’t be drank when pregnant.

If you suffer from misbehaving periods however, I would give it a go.  Just another reason why tea is fabulous.