5 awkward hypermobile situations- Part 3

So part 3 of this series focuses a bit on things that other people do that cause stress. And stress in general. I've had number 5 and 4 happen to me recently, so here is my rant for the week:

1) Trouble eating? Jaw dislocation and pain in hypermobility is not uncommon. Sitting at work or having lunch with friends or even eating dinner at home on the sofa- there is no ideal situation to have something violently click in your mouth and the food to fall out. Sadly yes, this does come from experience. Who doesn't love half-eaten digestive biscuit in their lap in a busy office?

2) Bags. Now, a lot can be said for deciding to use a small, lightweight, sensible bag. Good for your back, easier to carry, less chance of injury. However it isn't always possible and girls in paticular LOVE their large bags. I'm thinking a lot about suitcases here. I have had some true nightmares with them. Dragging for more than 1 minute causes bad shoulder pain, picking them up causes bad shoulder pain, forcing them shut causes, (yep you guessed it) bad shoulder pain. Relying on the kindness of strangers or your friends to lug your bag down the stairs at a train station becomes a key part of travelling. That or just taking no clothes away with you and hoping for the best.

3) Lifts. The hypermobile community and stairs are not the greatest of friends. Having ankle, knee and hip issues means stairs are a big problem in some cases, particularly massive flights of them. So you opting to use the lift makes sense, and you might when planning ahead think this will be fine. However, where is the lift? Why is a ten minute walk away? Why is it out service? I have to really let the people with buggies go before me don't I? It's surprising how hostile people with 'life entitlement' can get.

4) 'Would you like a photo madam?'  Limping, using crutches, being in a wheelchair, having to receive help. Anyone who has ever used an aid in public without a cast to explain things, or needed to use a wheelchair will probably have dealt with their share of staring strangers. It becomes it increasingly difficult when you're already frustrated to not vent your anger at people who gawk at you. Maybe we should carry around Polaroid cameras for people to have pictures?

5) Show us a trick then? Explaining your condition to someone and taking time to educate them to be asked 'ohh! Can I see a party trick?' is enough to set even the most patient person off. Not taking a frankly aggressive tone when you explain that NO you won't start bending your joints and causing yourself pain and possible dislocations just to show off, can be quite the feat.

This blog now has it;'s own Twitter feed! I wanted to make a profile for it where I can concentrate more on sharing relevant stuff. You can connect with me @ChronicHealth1 for the blog and for further hypermobile musings and lots of talk about food @laurenrellis

5 Things patients of chronic illness do...

From writing this blog, being a patient myself and immersing myself in online and hospital based communities, I have come to learn that there is much more to chronic illness than the condition itself.

1) Educating the educated

Chronic illness can be complicated, and particularly with under-diagnosed/ rare diseases, doctors will often have a gap in their knowledge. In my experience, and I know I am not alone, I often have to give a detailed description of hypermobility syndrome and the symptoms that come with it when I get referred to a new doctor. Obviously specialists will know what they're talking about (you hope) but it becomes the norm to explain your condition to doctors and for them to learn from you.

2) Adapting

You learn to be chronically ill in all situations. On the bus, at work, in the supermarket, looking after kids, having a shower. Every situation becomes adapted to you and your condition, and the adaptions aren't always good. It is however, a massive feat to carry out simple tasks while having a bad day, particularly living with chronic pain. The term 'chronically awesome' is no lie.

3) Forming communities

I didn't know that patient communities existed before I got unwell with hypermobility. Even then, it took me ages to realise there were Facebook groups, charities and forums bursting with information and support. You just type 'hypermobility' into the Facebook search bar and you're met with an abundance of groups and pages. It seems that when people have to really fight something, they fight together. It's been really interesting for me to grow a small community on Twitter off the back of this blog and my timeline is often littered with new information. You can join me on Twitter: @laurenrellis or on Instagram, where there is also a lot of unexpected 'spoonie' action! Larellis9

4) Learning and absorbing

To educate others, patients themselves have to be educated too. This is why communities and the great work done by charities like Ehlers Danlos UK and the Hypermobility Association are so important. Knowing the basis and learning about conditions is half the battle in the beginning. I was letting physios treat me for damaged rotator cuffs, even after they diagnosed me as hypermobile, because I just didn't know anything about it. It's surprising just how much patients learn about themselves and the world of medicine. Surprising in a really, really good way.

5) Generally being heroes

Ask anyone, it's bloody hard being chronically ill. It's hard having a condition that's not widely understood and without a straight forward cure or treatment plan. It takes a strong person to handle these things and they often make a strong person too.

6 ways you know you have an invisible illness

1)      You wake up in the morning looking and feeling fine. All is going well and you think this might be a good day for you. A day where you can get things done and feel like a normal, functioning member of society. Half hour later you are falling apart, things hurt for no logical reason, you can’t quite make it into the shower and you consider putting painkillers in your tea. You still look fine though, and you can't decide if this is good or bad.

2)      You approach inanimate objects with an air of extreme caution. You can’t just throw yourself onto a sofa or jump into bed because who knows what the consequences will be. Waking up in the mornings on a beautiful day and throwing open the curtains is far too dangerous. Your shoulder could come out of its socket and ruin the whole day. Sometimes you also need to mentally prepare to shower. It’s not a decision to be taken lightly.

3)      You experience deep and confusing emotions If you feel well enough to let your hair down and have a few (or a lot) of drinks at the weekend. While most hung-over revelers wake up on Sunday worrying they have drunk-texted someone they shouldn’t or accidentally phoned their boss, you wake up too scared to move. Who knows what damage you might have done while having fun? You have to slowly and carefully make your way to the kitchen to re-hydrate and eat all manner of carbs. If you have got away with it you then begin to feel invincible and consider doing other activities that you normally avoid before realise your head hurts too much and you go back to bed.

4)      Explanation exhaustion. Telling people who aren’t aware invisible illness exists or can’t quite comprehend them becomes tiring very quickly. You may even have devised a short, concise script of what to say when someone asks why you were off sick or why you can’t get out of your chair.

5)      Planning is something you have to do with great care. You never know when symptoms will flare up and mean you can’t go on your day out or go visit your friend or even go for dinner. Plans are for days when you feel good and you know your body will last the duration. You also have to ensure your friends and family understand your condition so they can’t hit you with ‘but you LOOK fine, maybe you can come for a while?’ 

6) You often have to face the injustice of feeling hungover when not so much as a drop of wine has passed your lips. Waking up with a raging headache, joint pain, shaking, needing painkillers just to face the shower. All of these are followed by the overwhelming urge to shout 'WHY ME? WHY? WHY?' but instead you just get on with it and start your day the best you can because you are a God damn warrior. 

Invisible illness: Support is so important

Having hypermobility can mean very different things for different people. While many people who have hypermobility have no symptoms at all, those who have hypermobility syndrome can lead a debilitated and painful life.

This is one end of the spectrum: 22 year old Alex tells of how hypermobility is currently ruling her life:

-Migraines, brain fog, inability to concentrate, loss of time/zoning out for minutes/hours.
-I struggle to complete tasks, work or periods of study. I would not be able to maintain a job or complete full time education. This is because of mental fatigue or 'brain fog'. I lack the concentration to complete even the simplest of tasks and I have a hard time with my short term memory. I can never remember whether I took my medicine, or if I ate at lunch time so managing my own condition can be difficult at times.

Alex doesn't look unwell, which often contributes to the battle

-Having a family member assist in helping me out with everyday tasks, finances, taking medication, managing therapies and appointments, reading emails and post is really helpful as there are times I'm not able to do this for myself. I struggle with verbal communication, I find it hard to maintain or keep up with conversation or explain my point and sometimes  understanding what others are saying. I need someone present with me at appointments or if I go out to help me with communication and traveling.

Sadly Alex is most definitely not alone in feeling this way everyday thanks to her condition. Having your ability to work, socialise, take care of yourself and be dependent in a way most people wouldn't give a second thought to taken away can be truly horrible.

HMS can strike in a very different way though, as it doesn't always cause a sufferer to not be able to work or carry out normal tasks. My end of things are quite different.

I am 24, have a full time job, socialise regularly and travel often. I still suffer with similar problems to Alex, but in a different way. Brain fog is definitely an issue. Sometimes at work my head clouds over and I forget what I am doing, or even who I am talking to. My short term memory can be awful at times.

Sitting at desk is like having a daily mortal enemy. I have to constantly stand and then sit and shift and move around because my back and shoulders despise it. I get extremely tired if I have a night out, which is worsening as I get older (as are hangovers) and really noticeable. Sleeping can be quite uncomfortable and I often wake up in a pretzel like shape with my shoulders out of place, so mornings aren't amazing. My muscles sometimes pull to the point where I have to limp even from the slightest exercise, whereas other times I can run, do fitness classes and swim as much as I like. Despite these things I can still go about day-to-day life largely untroubled.

You learn to adapt when you have a chronic condition. You just get used to the symptoms and learn how to manage them better. It’s when you have symptoms to the extreme, like Alex, that things become different. When your life is basically taken away and replaced with a full time fight, you need the right support system to pull through and stabilise yourself.

The problem with having a condition like HMS or related condition EDS (type 3 is the hypermobility type), is that not enough medical professionals understand too few people are aware that they even exist. Even those who do know and are close to a sufferer can try their hardest to support them, but it’s not always enough. People need education, training  and a better awareness. There are of course amazing carers everywhere, but an invisible illness comes with an extra difficulty: How can you help something that doesn't seem to be there?

Alex wants to get her life back on track, but she is constantly being blocked or delayed. These things will probably be frustratingly similar to fellow chronic illness fighters:

- Many support aids are needed for not just my body but for around my house and are quite expensive. The estimated cost of the aids that I need have passed the £1000 mark.
- I don't have an income other than the pre-assessment ESA rate, I should have had an assessment in May to determine whether I need more support but sadly they are experiencing around 26 week delays
- I have also applied for PIP to help cover the cost of living and to buy supports and appliances to adjust my home to my condition, the estimated wait time to hear back about a claim is around 26-48 weeks
- I have to consider the costs of prescriptions when back in work
Not having the supports that I require are preventing me from having independence, I am causing myself further pain and potentially damage.
*More readily available knowledge about getting help with costs for supports or aids would really benefit me. When I purchase these aids and supports I will have more independence, I will be better able to manage my condition and I will be able to get back into part time work at the very least.

Seeing medical professionals with little to no knowledge of the illness
- Unhelpful with a course of treatment or pain relief due to lack of knowledge.
- When seeing doctors about non HMS related problems they are sometimes reluctant to treat as they’re unsure what could be a symptom.
- Having to explain the condition to a medical professional when seeking treatment.
- Having spent so much time at the doctors or in hospitals since childhood with a multitude of complaints, at times I feel like I'm not being taken seriously and appear to be a hypochondriac.

This causes me anxiety, stress, and over a long period of time has contributed largely to depression. The smallest of stresses can exacerbate my symptoms and make me more susceptible to flare ups.

 We need more awareness of the condition, to have the necessary NHS staff educated on the condition, how to identify it and how to implement a treatment plan.

Alex’s frustration is widespread in the community of rare and invisible illness. I see it every day on social media, where support systems have grown as people come together to share experiences and help each other with diagnosis. Sometimes I read things that alarm me on Facebook groups (simply search for hypermobility and you will find many) and on Twitter, of course self-diagnosis isn’t the best way to go, but the majority of messages and advice is brilliant and you won’t find it in many places.

The associated charities are so motivated and really good at raising awareness and providing educational resources.

The Hypermobility Syndrome Association: http://hypermobility.org/

Ehlers-Danlos Support UK  http://www.ehlers-danlos.org/ 

There are also books available, such as A Guide to Living with Hypermobility Syndrome by Isobel Knight, available on Amazon.

You should also not give up after one failed trip to a GP, or even specialist. I had to see my GP about six times until I got a correct referral to a team that might be of real help to me.

The support for HMS and EDS is nowhere near perfect, and in many cases not even helpful at the moment. It is so important that awareness and fundraising continues so people like Alex can get somewhere, and do simple things like go out for the day for friends, or look for a part-time job. Hopefully the future will be brighter and better and importantly, more visible. 

Core Stability For Hypermobility

My first ever Core Stability class terrified and debilitated me. It was not ideal. I turned up really excited wearing lots of lycra, with my weird joints in tow and left feeling like I may just sleep in the park outside because it wasn't raining and the ten minute walk home was too much. However, this is just because I did a few things wrong. Number one: I didn't seek proper advice from the instructor despite him asking me if there was anything he should know about and if I needed help (“no I’m fine, I’m actually an Olympian.”) I told him about the hypermobility but should have actually asked specifically which weights I should go for and so on. Number 2: I picked up the lightest weight and put it down. Massive error. I needed to use that tiny weight. My weak arms and shoulders were not prepared for a real, hard work out and they most certainly let me know it.

I've been told so many times by physios and my GP and a rheumatologist that it’s important to have good core strength when you’re hypermobile. It’s basically the scripted sentence they all throw at you when you ask what you can do to help. For ages I did simple physio exercises at home but they didn't help much and my dog chewed through my thera-band. I don’t miss it. It was offensively yellow and smelt like sick and never did much to help my shoulders.

Thera-band fan

My housemate (also hypermobile) joined a gym and went to core stability and convinced me it was a good idea. So along I went. As I said, I went in too hard, too ill-informed and couldn't move the next day. Actually, the next five days. I couldn't bend, lower myself into chairs, get on and off the tube or get dressed without extensively groaning and feeling like the end was near. It was AWFUL. I had to pep-talk myself to walk down the stairs in my house and at the tube station and only left my desk at work for the fire alarm and other emergencies like starvation.

The silly mistakes I made however, were rectified by dusting off and starting again. Lightest weights, lots of warming up, and knowing when to just take a break even if no one else. Three classes later and it’s brilliant. My shoulders ache less, I can carry more, my back feels better and I can do a plank without shaking and falling over immediately. If you are able and want to do something improve your strength and joints, go for this. Start slow, very slow, and work your way to heavier weights slowly. Start with no weights if necessary. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get used to it, it really helps.

The class I go to starts with stretching and then involves lots of squatting and bending and planking, so it is necessary to stop every now and then to rest and not upset your joints too much. Don’t worry about the people who don’t break a sweat or look like they could do it with the rest of the class sitting on their back. They are most probably not of this planet or incredibly fit gym enthusiasts who don’t have the same problems as you.

It is important to work on your core. It is. It’s also a good way to tone up and you can definitely feel the difference after a few sessions. I still ache the next day every time but it’s now a good ache. The sort of ache where you think ‘I ache so I can eat what I want because I go to the gym and I am amazing.’

If you do take this up, make sure the instructor is a good one and knows about hypermobility and asks you about your fitness before you start. if you are looking for a gym, see if there is a Better branch near you. it's a bargain for a membership with classes and they do lots of good activities at all levels. http://www.better.org.uk/ Also take it very slow if you are new to this sort of exercise. Not being able to put your own socks on for the best part of week is not winning at life. 

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Parsley tea for period troubles

Working alongside doctors and nurses everyday means they are all subjected to me firing questions at them about medical complaints, of which I have plenty. About five months ago, I was busy complaining about how badly I suffer from late periods and pains and oily skin and hair at the joyous time of the month, when a colleague popped up and told me I needed parsley. I have never given much thought to parsley, I mean; it’s not that riveting is it? I knew nothing about it apart from that it came in two forms: flat leaf or curly. Fascinating stuff.

I was very apprehensive when I was told that I should brew myself some parsley tea. I am a tea enthusiast. I love the stuff. Normal tea, green tea, cranberry tea, ginger tea, black tea, tea with milk, tea with honey. All of the tea. The idea of parsley tea however, did not really fill me with caffeine delight. Apparently parsley, which is rich in vitamin C and A, both powerful antioxidants, is actually laden with health benefits. The most surprising thing to hear is that it can help to regulate periods and hurry along late ones. Upon hearing this, I politely nodded and thought to myself ‘errr, yeah okay.’

However, after a really horrible stressful month, my period was very late (about 2 weeks and I was definitely not pregnant), I was bloated, I was grumpy, my skin was horrible and my hair needed washing twice a day to look presentable. I was so fed up that I swung by Sainsbury’s and got some parsley (and about 2000 calories worth of M&Ms). My housemates were mildly horrified to see me throwing some freshly chopped herbs into a cup of boiled water, and to be honest, I was with them. It doesn’t look or smell like much fun. I was instructed to drink two cups for two days. It was pretty easy, just finely chop a handful, pour over the water and wait five minutes. Guess what happened after cup 3?

It worked. Or it was a coincidence, but either way, I was impressed. I also had the most mild and quickly passing stomach cramps for a very long time. I began googling parsley tea and stumbled across loads of forums and posts stating that it really helped with periods and bad skin and a number of other things. There were also a few that said it was rubbish, of course. I decided to try it again the following month, and drank a few cups in between for good measure, and hey presto, barely any period pains and it was bang on time, another extremely novel and sadly exciting thing in my life. After two months of herby, bitty, light green tea, my skin was also looking better. I am as sceptical as the next person about this kind of thing, but I believe in parsley tea. I have used it for four months, and my period pains have subsided, it’s been on time and I don’t look seven months pregnant the week before. I mentioned it in passing to my GP, who said it was definitely good for you, though in true GP fashion when it comes to herbal remedies, she didn’t have much else to say.

I would recommend giving it a try if you have similar woes. However, please brace yourself for the taste. Unless you are parsley groupie, I would add honey or lemon to soften the blow. Drinking it quite hot works too, as the longer you leave it the stronger the taste. It can also apparently help with fatigue and is good for cleansing the kidneys as it is rich in potassium; ideal after a heavy weekend or mid-week happy hour. However I have been told that it isn’t recommended for people with kidney conditions and shouldn’t be drank when pregnant.

If you suffer from misbehaving periods however, I would give it a go.  Just another reason why tea is fabulous.